Pea returns to Daytona Beach — this time to interview women about men, relationships, feminism, and life in America. This is the companion piece to her previous video interviewing men. She talks to American-born women, a Russian immigrant, and others, then delivers her own sharp assessment of the disconnect between Western women's dissatisfaction and their actual privilege compared to women in other countries.
Interview 1: Massachusetts woman
- Loves the US, appreciates the diversity of culture across states and the job opportunities
- Worst things: gun violence and racial oppression
- Defines feminism as equal rights between genders; believes men have more leverage, especially in pay, and women are shamed for their bodies
- A man's role: to provide and protect — "men are usually bigger and stronger"
- Wants a partner who "allows me to be me and doesn't dim my light" — accepts her as she is while providing and caring for her
- What she offers in return: she's a working woman and a nurturer — "it's in our nature as women"
- Love vs. money: says love is everywhere but "in this world you need money — if I didn't have money I wouldn't be able to be here right now"
- Rates herself physically: "I'm an 11. Everyone's an 11." Pea calls her "very generous"
Interview 2: Young American woman
- Has lived in the US her whole life, sees issues
- Biggest problem: social media and technology have pushed "toxic masculinity" thinking forward in recent years — thinks a lot of women would agree
- Defines feminism as "letting women be and do whatever they want to do — let them exist in their own space"
- Equality "sounds really simple but that's not the world we live in" — women face discrimination daily just for being women
- Brings up the abortion debate: "who should be making the decisions on whether or not women are able to have those abortions" — believes it should be women's choice since it's their bodies
- Pea challenges her on contraception: "you guys have contraception, why not just use contraception in the first place?" The woman explains birth control isn't 100% effective and people still get pregnant
- Mentions plenty of college friends who had unwanted pregnancies at 19-20 and chose abortion because they could — "they were not ready"
- Love vs. money: "I think it's okay to want both and to look for both"
- Rates herself: 10 out of 10 — "that's the mindset I always want to have"
Interview 3: Anastasia, Russian immigrant from Siberia
- Loves America — "it's paradise"
- Loves the weather, the sun
- Says Russia is "traditional" — men, women, kids in traditional roles, and same-sex relationships are not accepted ("don't like in Russia, and in America it's so normal")
- Was not surprised by American acceptance of same-sex couples because she watched YouTube and already knew the culture
- Sex before marriage is normal in Russia too, despite it being traditional — "not so so much traditional"
- Best thing about the US: freedom and free speech — "in Russia people don't have talk free" and she specifically values being able to speak freely here
Interview 4: American woman who doesn't know what feminism means
- Laughs it off: "I don't even know what that means — like a really funny part of your channel"
- Does believe there are rights men enjoy that women don't: "They have like thousands of years ahead of us because they was initially the ones running the country — we couldn't even vote"
- Her point: men have had a massive head start in controlling institutions, so their perspective still dominates
Interview 5: Older man on the beach (brief)
- Says he's "old school" and doesn't go along with feminism
- Doesn't think there should be "that much equality" between men and women: "Men do work harder — that's the reality of things"
Metal detector man interlude
- Pea encounters a man metal detecting on the beach with about $1,000 worth of equipment
- He's found 14-karat gold, diamond rings, and silver — keeps everything he finds, doesn't sell
- No permit required — free and open to the public
- Best finds come after storms due to erosion revealing older items buried in sand
- Has a YouTube channel called "Dave's Not Here" showcasing his finds
Interview 6: Young American woman
- Never heard of "passport bros" — guesses it means "two gay bros"
- When told it means men going overseas for wives: thinks it's fine, doesn't see a problem
- When asked why women don't do the same: "It's easier for women to get a partner"
- Almost propositions Pea in the process: "I wouldn't say no to you" — Pea reacts: "Did I just get propositioned by an American woman?"
- If she could change one thing about men: their entitlement — "they feel entitled to women or money or cars or whatever — especially white men"
- Does not believe there's sex equality in America, citing statistical gaps in jobs and pay
- Notes men's reproductive choices aren't governed by law the way women's are
Interview 7: American woman discussing quality of men vs. women
- Thinks there are "more quality women than quality men" — the pool of quality men is smaller
- When asked why more women don't go abroad: "Women are more flexible, more forgiving — I feel like we bend a little too much maybe"
- Says men generally move on quickly once something doesn't suit them, while women are better at multitasking, planning, and listening
- Just had a discussion with her husband about these topics that same day
- Does not believe there's pay equality — says studies consistently show a gap between men and women in the workplace
- Pea challenges her with an economic argument: "If women are paid less than men, why aren't companies just hiring women? Aren't they going to save a lot of money?" — the woman acknowledges it's a good question
- Defines feminism as "being there for women and supporting them to make up for the gap" — women are more highly criticized and policed for what they wear
- Sex before marriage: totally fine — "you want to check the merchandise before purchasing it — if it's not good then it's not sustainable. No returns, no refunds, no exchange"
- High body count: doesn't care personally, thinks the stigma falls more on women than men — "it's just life experience"
Interview 8: Russian-American woman (quarter Ukrainian)
- Her American husband couldn't find a nice woman in the US — but didn't have to go abroad because she came to America herself
- Born and raised in Russia, came to the US at 21 with $80 in her pocket
- Worked hard, put herself through school, now has everything she could imagine: "I am living the American dream — I could never achieve what I have today if I had stayed in Russia"
- On the Russia-Ukraine war: deeply emotional — her father is half Ukrainian, so she's a quarter Ukrainian herself
- Calls Putin "evil" and believes the war would end if he were gone
- Says many Russian people (in Russia and abroad) are "very misguided, very ignorant" with animosity toward Ukrainians — "it's literally brother killing brother"
- Loves America and would never go back to Russia
- If she could change one thing about men: "Man up. Men are very soft nowadays — the new generation, the 20s, the young guys. Softies." Blames broken families and lack of father/mother figures
- On equality: "Whole lot more than in other countries" — believes American women who complain about inequality should first visit Russia or India to see how women live there, then come back and talk
- "For some people it's just never enough — this country is beautiful, it's great, they like to whine"
- "If you want to have rights and be equal to men in many aspects of life, you come to United States"
Pea's editorial conclusion
- In the previous men's video, she was surprised American men didn't see many problems between the sexes
- The women she interviewed see things quite differently — the majority felt they were "being shortchanged at every turn"
- When pressed on specifics of what more they wanted, she got "very few concrete answers — just that things weren't fair, that more needed to be done, and that somehow men were the entitled ones"
- Imagines this would leave a lot of Western guys "scratching their heads"
- The immigrant women (Russian women specifically) were much quicker to recognize the good things about America and much more appreciative
- Pea's own position as a foreign woman: she agrees with the immigrants — "I seriously don't think a lot of American women know just how good they have it here"
- "It's almost like they've been told that things are so bad that they've started to believe it"
- Hopes this doesn't "spell disaster for the future of American relationships"
- Calls it "a divide that needs to be healed — but how to do that is anyone's guess"
