Pea continues her interview with Filipina-Canadian TikToker Helga Babushka for a frank conversation about what Filipinas actually want in a relationship, why they differ from Western women, and the intimate habits Western men should expect. Helga argues that Filipinas are drastically easier to please than Western women — they just want affection, respect, and verbal reassurance — while also making the case that the "you marry the whole family" criticism misses the point entirely.
What Filipinas actually want from a man
- Helga's core argument: Filipinas don't care how much you make — it's not about six figures
- What they want: respect, feeling special, appreciation, being kissed a lot, hearing "I love you"
- Helga: "Just say you love me maybe at least 20 times a day and cuddle with me" — that's literally enough
- Both Pea and Helga agree they feel "so freaking easy to please — not the other kind of easy"
- Helga says she doesn't like when her partner buys expensive things — she appreciates surprises but doesn't demand them
- No expectation of expensive jewelry or 10-carat rings
Why Filipinas believe they're better partners
- Helga says she wants to prove to the world that Filipinas are different from Thai girls, Colombians, Latinas — they have unique qualities as partners
- Even when tired, if a man treats a Filipina with respect and makes her feel special, "we give 10 times, even 100 times to make them happy"
- They automatically cook, clean, and keep the house in order without being asked — it's not servitude, it's tradition
- They do all this while also working outside the home
- "Marry a Filipina because we Filipinas are the best — you don't even have to worry about hiring a lady to clean your house or a nanny for your kids, our family will take care of our kids"
"You marry the whole family" — Helga's reframe
- Acknowledges the criticism that marrying a Filipina means marrying her entire family
- Her response: "So what? That's how we are happy. That's part of our culture. Whether they like it or not — then don't marry a Filipina, and you're gonna miss a lot of amazing culture"
Addressing the "gold digger" and "green card" stereotypes
- Helga pushes back on the claim that Filipinas only marry foreigners for green cards
- Acknowledges some Filipinas do scam foreigners, but says the negative cases get amplified — "one situation that a Filipina scammed a foreigner, they will spread that like a virus and apply that to all Filipinas"
- Says she's met many Filipinas married to foreigners who are still together and happy
- Points out that Filipinas are "'til death do us part" partners — even if a partner gets sick, most will stay and take care of him
- Cites a couple she interviewed: almost 50-year age gap, married 14 years, living in Canada, still happy — the guy isn't rich, she's a working nurse, and you can see genuine love in how they treat each other
- Helga's counter-argument about Western women: "They say she's only after his green card — you know why they say that? Because that's what they do here. They're only with a guy for his Lamborghini, his big muscles, his six figures"
Helga's relationship status and views on marriage
- Addresses rumors: people say she's married to an old man and stole him from his family — she responds "no" but says she's been with her partner for three years
- Not married and not expecting it — in Western culture "if he's not marrying you he doesn't love you," but in the Philippines the couple decides together
- Doesn't pressure for marriage — it's up to both partners
How Filipinas were raised — the motherly blueprint
- Helga's mom told her: "You better know how to cook, clean, and act like a lady — that's your biggest asset, and the guy will stay with you"
- Pea says her mom was the same — they joke they might be related
- Mom also said: find a guy who treats you with respect and love, and if he's abusive, you leave — that's why you need the skills, so you're never dependent
- Go to school and educate yourself because "you cannot always rely on men"
- When starting a family, let the man lead — but only if he treats you with respect
- Helga: "I don't mind if my man dominates me in a good way" — but if there's disrespect, "I'm going to act like a Filipina girl and fight back"
Filipinas as territorial and jealous
- Filipinas are self-admittedly the jealous type — if the man does things to make them jealous, "we will become cuckoo"
- But they're also fiercely territorial — once a man is theirs and treats them well, "no one should touch him"
- Won't tolerate cheating: "If someone is cheating on us, we're gonna do something"
The "banana holding" question — intimate Filipina habits confirmed
- Pea asks a bonus question from previous videos: do Filipinas hold their partner's penis while he sleeps?
- Helga immediately confirms: "Yes" — says it's a stress reliever, like holding something soft and comforting
- Compares it to squeezing a baby's chubby cheeks — it's a form of affection
- Helga did a survey of her Filipina friends and they all confirmed they do this
- Both agree it's a Filipina thing that Western women probably don't do
- They also discuss burying their face in their partner's armpit to smell them — Helga calls herself "the armpit girl"
- The laundry smell test: Helga sniffs her partner's clothes before washing — if they don't smell like him, she puts them back ("why are you wasting clothes, it's not even dirty")
- Both agree Western people would find this taboo but for Filipinas it's normal — plus in the Philippines you don't want to waste water and electricity
Pea warns about the coming wave of foreign men
- Pea asks if Helga expects a "tidal wave" of men heading to the Philippines because of the passport bro movement
- Helga says yes and calls for a "Pea and Helga movement" to raise awareness among Filipinas
- Concern: many Filipinas don't understand Western dating culture — in Filipino culture, if a man gets a woman pregnant, they get married the next day; Western men don't necessarily operate that way
- Filipinas need protection — not just sexual protection, but emotional and mental protection
- Pea's advice to Filipinas: "Don't just spread your legs because you're in love already after one date, two days"
- Helga mentions some Filipinas approach foreigners in malls asking "can you give me a baby" — a friend of hers experienced this and thought it was a prank, but Helga says it may be genuine (the woman may want a "half-breed" child)
- Helga: "Stop that, ladies. I know a lot of Filipinas will say 'at least I have a half-breed' — I'm not with that mentality"
Helga's personal growth and privacy
- Says if you met her five or six years ago, she was completely different — very simple, shy, camera-shy, would never talk like this in public
- She's an introvert despite appearing extroverted online
- Keeps her personal life private and doesn't want being on YouTube to give people the right to scrutinize it
- Plans to eventually write a book about her life
- Her philosophy on haters: "It's good to know you're living rent free in their heads" — if gossiping makes them happy, let them
